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Now you all know I have become a bit cynical in regards to dating lately. Especially since my last burn. Now I feel like I am getting over it, got the closure and now I am moving on. But the hurt still raises it’s ugly head every now and again. A little reminder will pop up every once in awhile. I got to the point where every time I would think about the ex, I would say to myself he must be thinking about me, then I think, good let him wallow in it. I will be just fine. So it has been a little over a month and a half. Since I found out what kind of man he was. I have decided to try to put myself back out there. Every time I go through a bunch of crap with a guy, I sit and think, I should’ve stayed with my ex- husband, at least I know all his faults and his positives too. Well that lasts all of about 5 minutes and then I get over that too. He is a good guy, but it didn’t work for a reason.

So now it is time to move forward not backward. Me, being a little adventurous decided to try a dating service. An on- line dating service. On- line dating worked for my sister and her now husband, so why shouldn’t it work for me? Why not give it a try. I would like to say the name of this dating service but I won’t, not just yet anyways. It has been just over a week and it took a little time to come up with some matches that I was personally interested in. Now this will be a new thing for me and involving my writing because I am taking you along with me every step of the way. We will see what happens. I have at the present, about 7-8 matches, and by matches I mean people the dating service seems to think I am compatible with. I like this service so far for a variety of reasons. You have to do profiles and they match you based on that, plus you have to correspond through their site for a while so that seems safe for now. There have been two guys in particular who I am interested in, but we will see. For some reason I always pick older men. Go figure. I just prefer older men I guess. Older men seem to be more grounded I guess. They also seem to know what they want and are usually not into playing games. Except the last guy I dated he was older and such a player.

Well you all will be kept up to date, because I can’t do this alone. I am more leery now and yes a little afraid. One good thing about me and my dating is, I never get my son involved, with any of the men. I did it one time and I will never do it again until I know for sure I have met my one and only. I never wanted to have my child involved. Everyone should really think about that. I mean your kids have already went through enough with the split with you and their father or mother, there is no need to let them get attached and get hurt again. Please just consider what I am saying regarding that. The kids shouldn’t be involved until it becomes a done deal really and you know with 100% certainty that you want to be together. Good- luck to all of you singles out there. I hope you find love and happiness. God Bless.

Vaughn Pascal

To Dakota: I love you…

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He was concerned with the direction a decision was leaning, Jon said on his voice mail. Could I meet him for lunch in the cafeteria before Friday’s meeting to talk it through?

As peer managers involved in policy implementation, our departments would be impacted by any direction taken. Friday’s meeting was with the decision makers; a discussion of pluses, minuses, timetables and resources needed for three options under consideration.

Over lunch, we discovered our alignment. Option one required mandatory overtime, organizational changes and significant resources to implement. I felt it would negatively impact the company by affecting morale, reducing productivity and impacting long-term profits. Jon concurred, expressing an even stronger viewpoint about its deficiencies and why we needed to work together to eliminate it from consideration.

By Friday, I had research, statistics and arguments against option one. Waiting in the hallway for a prior meeting to end, Jon again expressed his position and the desire to speak with one voice. What happened in that meeting took me by surprise as I heard Jon begin to debate me, advocating for the option he claimed to deplore. Yup, a flip-flop. Three weeks later, Jon was promoted to the Project Leader.

Looking back at what happened, I realize I was na

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DATE. The dictionary defines this word as, “an engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.” When two people meet and share a mutual interest in exploring something more, they usually arrange a date. Simple, right? Apparently not.

Dating today seems to have taken on a number of different meanings and contexts, depending upon whom you talk to. Many singles verbalize uncertainty about the who, what, when, where and how’s of dating. Somewhere along the way the game changed and the old rules were forgotten or lost. What’s a single person in search of a relationship to do?

The answer will depend upon what an individual’s relationship needs and goals are. If someone is playing for fun, there may be few if any rules. If they are playing to win, the rules will matter, as the stakes for them are high. Much of the confusion and difficulty seems to occur when two individuals with different goals meet and make plans to get together.

So, how can someone play the dating game in a way that maximizes their chance of meeting their relationship expectations? They must decide IN ADVANCE what their (long term) goals for dating are and what is and is not acceptable for them from any future partner and relationship. Then they must make conscious, self-serving decisions regarding the who, what, when, where and why questions that arise.

In order to assist you with these important choices, I have designed a pre-date checklist. It’s a basic primer that will help you to meet and date compatible singles who are in a similar dating place (at the present time) as you are. Some careful thought beforehand will help you to avoid making impulsive and/or poorly thought out choices that can lead to the kinds of headaches and heartaches that are detailed in the many emails I receive.

Pre-Date Checklist:

* Am I dealing with any unresolved (past) issues that impact my ability to have a healthy social/dating life?

* At this time am I interested in meeting a lot of people and dating for fun and experience or am I looking for a serious involvement?

* Do I know the best ways/places to meet people who share my present dating expectations and goals?

* Do I have a rough list of attributes/characteristics that I am looking for in a partner (if applicable) or a person I’d want to date?

* Do I have “rules” that are in line with my dating expectations and goals? If so, am I able to be consistent in following them?

* Am I upfront and clear in my communication with singles in whom I have an interest in dating?

* Am I comfortable (and appropriate) in expressing my disinterest in dating (or continuing to date) someone?

* Do I think through the possible consequences beforehand of drinking too much, agreeing to leave alone with someone I have just met and any other reckless and/or impulsive behaviors?

A healthy, successful dating life requires making CONSCIOUS choices that are based on a strong self-knowledge and good self-esteem. If you have a past dating pattern that is characterized by first dates that go nowhere; promises of calls to get together that never come; first meetings that leave you wondering what went wrong when the connection felt so right; and other dating disasters- then I urge you to try utilizing the pre-date checklist and doing some work on yourself first, in order to help change your dating luck and chances of relationship success.

Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including: The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman’s Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men’s Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com; discovery.health.com; aolnews.com; MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni offers dating help and relationship advice as the weekly love and dating coach on the KTRS Radio Morning Show (St. Louis, MO) and through her syndicated column, “Dear Dating Coach.”
Her newsletter, The Art Of Intimacy, helps over fifty-five hundred subscribers with its dating and relationship advice. Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association Of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

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